Broken Heart? Here's how to heal.
So, you got your heart broken? First off, I feel your pain. We’ve all been there. That emotional hurt that is so strong you can actually feel a physical ache in your chest. You can’t stop thinking. Playbacks of your relationship are circulating in your head. You tell yourself to focus on something else, something positive, your breath, the feeling of your toes. Literally anything but your ex.
The good news is that you have the ability to make this a less painful process. The even better news is you will heal if you seek healing. Let’s get right into it. We don’t want to spend any more time in this funk than we need to, so let’s begin.
1. This is a MAJOR ONE. Focus on your progress! If you don’t have goals that you want to achieve, I suggest writing down a few goals that you really want to accomplish. Write them down and then start working on them. Even if its slow progress or tiny bites of progress, try to accomplish something for your betterment every day. Switching your attention to things that will improve your life, like your health, learning new skills or starting a business is one of the best things you can do for yourself in this moment. For one it’s a great distraction and two you’ll feel good about your development.
2. Move your body. All of those negative emotions are sitting stagnant inside of you. Movement is a great way to release some negative energy and get your endorphins (natural morphine-like chemical) released. Exercise is proven to boost self-esteem, ward off anxiety and depression, reduce stress and improve sleep. Oh, how you could use more sleep. I suggest working out in the morning if you are someone who wakes up and lays there with a mind flooded with thoughts or struggles with anxiety. As soon as the thoughts start just get up and get moving. Dance is one of my favourite forms of movement that help in the healing process. Maybe you want to hit the dance floor or have a dance party in your room.
3. Believe in the power of timing and that God, The Higher Power or the Universe is working in your favor. It may be hard at first depending on if you normally believe this or not. How many times have you looked back at something shitty and said to yourself, If that never happened I wouldn’t have this or met that person or travelled to this place or had this opportunity. At the very least, every relationship teaches us something about who we are, what we want and what we would do next time. Life is a valley of highs and lows and no matter which height we are at there is something to learn.
4. Allow yourself to have a good cry. Crying helps us to regulate our emotions, lower stress and is proven to be self-soothing. That’s why we have the term “a good cry.” Break ups also have a grieving-like period. Denial, shock, anger, sadness. It’s okay to go through it. We are not robots. Find a space where you can feel comfortable to have a good ugly cry. Chances are you will feel a sense of relief, calmer and lighter. Let it out.
5. Take care of your mental health. This is something we should be doing daily anyways but pay closer attention during this time as you are probably more stressed out. Meditate, listen to daily affirmations, seek out therapy or a Life Coach, listen to calming music, take a day off work if needed and permitted. Talking can be very healing too. If you have a good friend that you can just let everything out to, it’s a good time to do so. Sometimes we feel that we don’t want to burden others but a good friend will be happy to be there for you. So, as much as I love the first tip on the list about making progress, it’s also a good time to binge watch your favourite comedy show or just take a few days here and there to just chill out! You deserve relaxation and you time.
